When it comes to relationship and making it work, most of us are still trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t work.
Now some people will argue that it is good to have expectations for a partner, that way you will get what you want. But the truth is, having expectations does more harm than good to your relationship.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t communicate your needs and your wants. How else will your partner know what you want if you don’t tell them?
Now here are 3 reasons why having expectations in a relationship is wrong.
3 reasons why you shouldn’t have expectations in a relationship
Once you expect something of someone, you get disappointed if they don’t do that. And that can lead to fights and misunderstandings in the relationship.
Instead of fighting with your partner because they didn’t do what you expected of them, try telling them what you actually want and they might just do it.
Imagine having expectations that are never met. You will always resent your partner for not living up to those expectations.
So appreciate what your partner is able to do now and don’t focus too much on your expectations.
Lack of contentment
When you expect so much from your partner, you don’t realise the little amazing things they do for you. You spend so much time being sad about not getting what you want instead of enjoying the moment and being happy with what they are able to do for you.
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