Becoming a Mom is a wonderous time. It’s the time when your life completely changes because of the new bundle of joy coming into your life. And the time when you know you’ve got to face all the responsibilities of life because of the very little life now depending on you.
It’s a very grown up time, and because of that, a lot of worries can come hand in hand with it.
Worries that your baby is too slow or too fast. Worries that your baby doesn’t feed enough or spits up too much when burping.
Worries that your baby doesn’t have as much hair as another child. It all adds up into one big worry pot. And then you’re constantly ripping your own hair out over whether or not your child is ill or otherwise.
But that just doesn’t make for a great start in life! And one day they’ll be all grown up and you won’t know where the time went!
So in the here and now, make sure you spend as much time as you can enjoying your baby’s life. And not worrying when you don’t need to!
So with that in mind, let’s have a look at some of the most common issues a new Mom is likely to find a bit worrying, but there’s no reason you should!
Common new mommy worries
1. How Much Your Baby Cries
Crying is very natural for an infant. When you’re a little person who has no language or social skills, the only way you can make yourself heard is when you’re wailing your lungs out.
But it can be very distressing for a parent to hear their child crying in such a way. So there’s total understanding over you being worried about this!
But there’s usually no need to worry as babies cry. And they’re going to cry in their own way on their own schedules. They’re all individuals with their own personalities after all!
You might not expect your baby to cry so much. And as long as you feed them, changed them, bathed them, and held them to you for long enough, there’s usually no reason behind their need to get the water works flowing.
As time goes on from birth, your baby is probably going to cry more and more before they settle down again. Which typically lasts for a period of 3 months. And doctors see a lot of hospital trips from new parents because of this.
But don’t worry too much, your baby will settle down and get into a routine and no longer cry so much. It’s very natural for a parent to think something is wrong when a bout of colic strikes as well. But this is a lot more common than you think. And babies are very healthy otherwise.
2. That You Can’t Breastfeed
Breastfeeding is often quoted as one of the best ways mother and child can bond together. It feels like you’re feeding them from the heart, and holding them close as you do it.
But there’s a lot of parents out there who can’t get on with breastfeeding. And often in turn feel very bad over their apparent inability to do something that seems so simple.
Well, it’s not so simple after all. And there’s absolutely no harm in finding it uncomfortable or painful to feed your baby from your breast.
The idea that breast is best has hung around for a long time, and whilst there’s some truth behind it (considering you’ve been producing and saving up this milk for months now). It doesn’t mean there’s no other way to feed your baby.
That’s why formula exists. And it contains a lot of the same nutrients as breast milk will. So feel free to stock up on tins and tins of it to always have a bottle ready for your child when they need it.
If you still want to try the breastfeeding route, feel free to do that as well. But never push yourself, as you can very easily end up hurting yourself because of this.
But you can practice and practice to make it easier on yourself. And you might just end up mastering the skill sooner than you ever thought possible!
Going to skin to skin is usually a good move for mothers aiming to breastfeed when baby is fussy. Or you can’t otherwise get the hang of the motion, and always look out for feeding cues from baby that isn’t just crying.
3. If Your Baby Has a Skin Issue
Babies can have a lot of skin issues within the first year of their life. They’re been thrust out into a new world with all its dangers and now their very young and inexperienced skin has to handle all of that!
Not to mention they’re probably going to be having a lot of your own hormones still swimming around in their bloodstream. And that can bring up a variety of issues from their oil glands and otherwise.
Don’t worry, you can’t pump these out or get rid of them. And it’s very normal for your baby to develop some kind of blemish on their skin.
One of the most common to worry about is baby eczema. It’s something that can very easily affect a baby and toddler, and it’s likely not going to disappear before they reach their teen years.
It can also act as a sign that your baby’s skin isn’t acting as the protective barrier it’s meant to be. But there’s still no need to worry over that. Simply keep an eye out for eczema patches. And keep a friendly moisturizer around to stop skin from going too dry or cracked.
There’s a lot of minor issues new parents can worry about as well. Such as infant acne, cradle cap, heat rash etc. But usually these things are nothing too bad to worry about. And if they progress beyond the symptoms you’re used to seeing, you can very well call the doctor and make an appointment.
You’re never alone in your fight against worry. But there’s always a professional to administer some proper care if something is actually wrong.
4. That Baby Is Late with Milestones
Baby development is going to vary from child to child, and you should never feel the need to push your infant too hard to reach a certain milestone you know your best friend’s baby has already reached.
Of course you can practice walking and talking with them. And always encourage them to try out new things, but it’s usually no worry if your baby is a little bit behind anyone else’s.
Late bloomers have a certain negative stigma attached to them. And of course sometimes there may be a condition you weren’t aware of in the way. But usually baby is just taking their time and enjoying life.
There’s millions of children out there. They’re not all going to be walking by 16 months and being able to get up and down the stairs with their parent’s guidance at this point!
But you can practice with your baby. Play with them. Place them on their front from time to time to make sure they’re using their necks and arms enough to strengthen the muscles there. And remember you can talk to your doctor if you’re really worried about baby’s development.
5. That You’re Not as Good a Parent as Someone Else
Stop right there with that thought! It’s a very common one for a new Mommy to worry about. But there’s absolutely no reason you should! You’re your own person, and so is your baby. And no one in your social circle or your family or even the parenting books you’ve been brushing up on knows better than you.
Sure, if someone close to you has advice for you, cast an ear out to listen. But you never have to take that advice to heart or even consider the possibility that that person knows better than you.
They’re not a new parent. They’re certainly not a doctor. And they don’t know your child in the way that you do! Do what you and your baby needs. And don’t worry about whether or not it fits in with what’s usually accepted in the new parent community.
After all, there are millions of children out there and they’re definitely not all going to develop in the same way!
If you’re a new Mommy, you’re going to be panicking about anything and everything. It’s something that seems like such a natural progression when you’re bringing a new life into your family. And there’s plenty of actual reasons out there to worry about.
But if you’re going into overdrive, stop yourself in your tracks and breathe for a moment. Remember the support you have around you. Remember all the parenting knowledge you’ve already taken to heart. And you’ll be parenting on just fine!