Honestly, I feel quite conflicted about making this article, as I fear I might be spilling some secrets about how women can get hold of the hearts of every man out there, especially, their own men. I just hope that they do not come after me, ( that would be very scary indeed ).
Anyways, the heart of a man can be as tough as can be. But a woman who knows how to handle a man can be the cure to such a man. Handling a man does not require solving complicated mathematical theories. It is just knowing the right things to do and when. ( basically, not pissing him off )
As simple as that. A man can love and do so in an earnest and intense manner. But can also be repulsed by certain things a woman may do. Such as being overly dependent or wearing too much makeup, please, you really should want to know our thoughts. Men like their women beautiful and natural please, keep that in mind.
Men expect their women to know as much. If not, as compared to how intense men love, it can all cascade down and wreak havoc on the relationship.
This article was made in mind to solve one problem and that is to aid women who feel like their relationships are going down the drain. Even if yours is not going down, you might as well read further to know some things you do that, your man may not tell you but he may not like it, and by the time you realize he’d be gone.
You must sit down to analyze why your relationship is not like it was in the beginning. The cause may be the man, or both, or you, also you might be the main cause. Do not immediately deny, take time to reflect on your actions lately, have you developed a new lifestyle? Or is there actually something you are not doing to the benefit of your relationship?
In this article, you will be provided with things you should avoid if you want to keep your man. They are not too demanding. Even if they are, you seek to keep your man to yourself, so it should be enough to sacrifice for.
Avoid These Things To Keep Your Man
Trying to Be Manipulative
Most women are guilty of this. They try to employ certain means and ways to get stuff from their man when they need it. But honestly, men hate this kind of behavior, even personally I detest it, we abhor it.
We want you to be sincere with your affection. Other than trying to please us only when you need something. When your man realizes this kind of habit about you, he will start thinking about things like, whether or not you can be a good mother to his kids. Because such habits are displayed by women who are after material things and not a relationship or marriage.
When a man sees that, he would also start treating you as a worldly woman, other than the queen you ought to be regarded and treated. Although we are not God, we are able to at least know when someone is not being real. It is an instinctive characteristic of every man, and I know women can feel it too.
So I suggest saving yourself from any more disgrace and shame. Whenever you need something, be real with your partner. Let him know sincerely so that he would also do it for you from his heart because that is how we like it.
Being Too Attaching
Basically, do not be clingy. Just as most of my dear women out there hate clingy men, so do we find it suffocating. You must value yourself as a woman. Let your man know that you are a high-class woman who can be by herself for days without bothering him.
There is a word called feisty. As a man, I find this word cute in a quite strange, way despite its meaning. From my understanding, it can mean, a woman who is tough to deal with. Yes. A hard nut, who is not clingy, who can make me work for her attention in a cute way. But by not being too inaccessible.
When you become so clingy as a woman, you kind of put your man on a pedestal. And one guy once said, in that case, he would look down on you, from high up the pedestal. He would not value you anymore as his woman, his respect for you falls drastically in that case. We want our women by our side, not groveling beneath us, as if she has no pride.
Know that as a woman, you have the power to make your man crave for you and your attention. But make sure it is not too much, make it moderate. When you get the time to enjoy with him, do so to the best of your abilities while keeping in mind that you are a high-class woman, meaning do not do anything demeaning to your pride as a woman.
And naturally, that is what we want for our woman to recognize how special she is. My brothers might come after me but I have said it already. Be like that word feisty. Every woman has it in her despite personality differences. So stop being too needy and start evaluating your worth, you would know then that, you are to be sought after not the other way round.
Seeking Attention From Other Men
Intentionally or not, we hate it. And the potentiality of us leaving you is very high. It makes us insecure. Men naturally are beings that hate to share their stuff with other men. It is a biological and evolutionary thing.
What is ours is ours and not to share. And you as our woman should refrain from doing anything that would make other men fantasize about you, such as posting revealing images on Snapchat Instagram, and other social media platforms.
Also when we are with you at a party, we would love it if you do not heed the calls or beckons of any man, even if he is a friend, let that friend understand that you are with your man. This is by no means being authoritative, no, it is about respect and love.
When you respect your man and you love him just as well, you would not go around making him feel insecure all the time, you would risk losing your man. You should respect how he views your relations with other men in front of him.
Whether or not you seek attention from them, it makes us feel insecure and wonder if you are even serious about the relationship. My dear, consider this point carefully. You can meet with your male friends anywhere but just not in front of your man. The meaning is a whole different thing to us.
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Testing Their Love
There are many ways a woman may want to test the love of his partner. A typical and naive example of the unmarried ones is when they claim to be pregnant to test the love of a man towards her when in fact she is not.
Later, when you are found out the least you could have is being ghosted and the worst, you already are aware. When a man loves you. Do not try to verify if he really is. It would hurt any man if he felt that you did not trust him.
Excessive Makeups
We do not think makeup is good, or we suggest you not take good care of your beautiful self, but the truth is sometimes women indulge too much in this makeup thing. Honestly speaking, I speak for my fellow men, please, reduce the amount of makeup you use on your face.
We love you natural. We love it when you have that natural aura about you. When we can see your real face and appreciate that God has blessed us with a beautiful woman, we will do anything to keep you to ourselves. Because, a woman who is proud of her face and body, is a gem.
Most men would fail to speak out loud and swallow the displeasure but others would relay it to you. But I suggest you do not let it get to that level yet. Just limit the usage, or quit it outright, that would be very much better
Being Unreasonable
Men want a woman who understands. Truth be told, aside from being as feisty as I said previously, try to understand your man. Understand his fears and appreciate him. Men hate women who fail to understand situations that call for a compromise.
As a woman who seeks to keep your man, you must make it a priority to try to understand him. Even if you do not. A typical scenario is when you may want an emotional connection with him but he is not ready or give excuses, just understand and let him be, he might be wanting to cool off from stress, maybe from a work-related issue, just give him that space.
Because men love understanding women and those who are ready to sacrifice for their sake. That does not mean you are being stupid, it makes you a loving woman, who understands the needs of her man.
Do Not Compare Him
This is one of the worst, a man naturally hates it when he is being compared to your exes or other men. It is a huge turnoff for men. When you compare a man, it is the same as you telling him in the same breath that you still fancy that man to him.
Due to personality diversity, some men would keep it to themselves despite the blatant disrespect. But others would let you know. However with the intention of putting a stop to that disrespectful relationship.
Do Not Be Over Dependent On Him
You must have things going for you, like a job or something or better still a skill you can generate a good income from, if not, a man would find you annoying in time to come.
Always having to pay for all your basic little things which you should be capable of paying. Honestly, for the huge ones, he would foot them all. But for the more basic ones like lunch, your hair, nails your spa, and the rest, you must force yourself to pay them. They are your basic necessities.
A man does not have to be paying all those for you. Men are more like “Use your money for you, and I will use my money for us.” Yes. Enjoy your money alright, we do not need your help with finances when we are working. But with the little we get, we would make sure to use that on the relationship.
If you wish to help, that is duly appreciated, it would help us to see you in a different light. Some men would even regard you as a helper and hence a keeper. But if otherwise, you better know your standing. Again, men love independent women.
A Woman Who Disregards Boundaries
In every relationship, boundaries are very important things. They are what makes you stay true to yourself. And if you fail to acknowledge the boundaries of your man, you make him feel awkward anytime you disregard the fact that he has boundaries set up and so have you.
Therefore you must make it a priority to respect those boundaries if not you would be losing a really good man my dear.
Quarelling With His Mom
This is by far the worst thing you would ever do to piss a man off. A man’s mother is his heart. I do not mean to say you are not his heart, but the connection he has with his mom is on a much different and deeper level.
It is a never-ending bond. But with the bond we may have with you, a little tug can be strong enough to break it. Hence if you want to keep your man, and grow with him, and also to increase that bond you have for him, know your level and standing, make sure to never, ever have a fight with his mom whether playful or not. Please, my dear, do not try.
Final Words
With these Don’ts, I could probably write a hundred more. But honestly. This post is not to centralize the attention on men in a relationship, no, it is more about creating an awareness of how most relationships fail to work due to the man being repulsed by what a woman did in the relationship.
You may not know what some of those situations you caused were. With this article, you must begin to analyze and realize how some actions of yours put your relationships at risk. Just as men force themselves and make certain sacrifices for the sake of the relationship, my dearests, you must also make similar sacrifices. They always say a relationship is a two-way street.
