Success can come to anyone. But it does come with a cost. Most of the time, we hear people talking about how they became as successful as they are, how hard they have worked, and the sacrifices they have had to make.
But as a person who is probably obsessed with becoming as successful as them or even better, after analyzing what you hear them say, do you also think about the sacrifices they had to make?
Well, maybe you do; maybe you do not. But the story of their success does not end there. It goes on to even cover what they do on a daily basis, their beliefs, and how they view things as a whole.
The truth is, the success journey of people will never be the same. But there are some things that successful people have in common that you can never leave out of your own personal journey. And there are also things they did their best to avoid.
And so, if you do not take care and try as much as possible to avoid them, you might find it very hard to attain the level of success you so much desire. Because most of these things are what your thoughts lead to. Your actions, decisions, and basically anything you do in your everyday activities.
These things have the capability to impede your growth and keep you wondering what you are doing wrong. Until you have successfully been able to pinpoint these habits and take care of them accordingly, you will find that your progress will not be as smooth as you would have naturally wanted.
In this article, we will discuss some of the habits that can impede the progress of your journey, and as such, to help you avoid them, we will analyze some of these things and provide you with some tips to help you avoid them.
Habits That Hold You Back From Your Success
Your Fear Of Failure
There is not one person who has been able to succeed in life who is afraid of failure. Naturally, there have definitely been people who were afraid to do something yet went on ahead to do the same things they were afraid of doing. The difference between these people and you will be that they are brave, while you just do not want to risk anything.
Failure to take risks and fail will always keep you in that shell and, as such, limit your abilities a great deal. If you are one who is afraid of failing, that is a good thing; at least you know there is some integrity at stake, but you should keep in mind that if you are able to face that fear and just do it anyway, who knows, you might not fail.
And even if you do, it is not a big deal at all. Why is it so? Because, in the case where you fail, you get to learn a lot from that failure alone.
If you try again, you will be able to determine what you did wrong and what you can do to make it right again. It is just as simple as that. Like they say, failure is also a good teacher.
If you are able to handle that fear, contain it, and do something about it, you will be one step closer to success. Even as it is, look at it from the positive side: if you are able to conquer your fear and do that particular thing anyway, supposing you succeed, you gain; and if you lose, you gain.
So, do not worry about what people will say or how they will ridicule you; just do it anyway.
Your Lack Of Confidence
Without this, you will find it hard to even stand up for yourself when required. To become successful, you need to have this trait, because to attain whatever success you want, it is not only about what you know or who you know, although most of the time it is the key, but most importantly, it is the guts you have to do something.
The guts to start doing some things for yourself. If you have it, you are halfway to success. At times, you will be required to make certain decisions that will test your confidence, and if you do not have enough of it, then you will no doubt be in trouble.
Also, most people, due to their low self-esteem, tend to criticize themselves a lot. They question their ability to do something.
They sometimes question and wonder if they match up to something, and as such, they end up being dependent on something or someone, which further leaves their self-confidence hanging.
That is not the way to go. Even though building self-confidence requires you to be on a certain level, sometimes just giving yourself positive pep talks is enough to somehow boost that confidence.
That is to say, to attain that level of success that you want, you must start looking for ways to increase your level of confidence because if it is not enough to make bold decisions, you will be screwed.
Successful people have lots of confidence, and to be like them or to get to where they are, start packing up yours. But one thing to keep in mind is that there is a huge distinction between confidence and arrogance. Do not misinterpret them.
Comparison
Sometimes, many people tend to measure the progress of their success with other people, such that when they realize that things are not going as they wanted, they start to get discouraged because, possibly, the one they compare themselves to is probably breaking boundaries and achieving great things.
But the truth is, when it comes to success, as I stated previously, everyone has different success stories, and it will never be the same. It will always be relative to who you are as a person and the level you want to get to.
Therefore, once you spot someone breaking boundaries and doing the impossible, the moment you decide to compare yourself to them, you hurt yourself, and most importantly, your mental stability and your confidence.
It makes you feel as though you are worthless because you cannot do as much as that person. But have you considered the fact that there are people you are doing much better than?
People also look up to you, and as such, once you decide to engage in such destructive thoughts, you end up slowing yourself down.
Therefore, do not encourage that habit. Do your best every day, and measure your success today by how much you were able to accomplish the day before. That way, your progress will be measured with your current achievements as the marker.
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Your Wait For Approval
If you are not confident enough in your own judgments, then you will be screwed if you want to be successful.
Sometimes, in this journey, it is good to listen to the advice of others. But you must make sure not to be overly dependent on it.
Most of the time, you know yourself better than they do you, so you are very aware of your strengths and weaknesses, and you know what you can do and what you can’t. As such, you must always make sure that your decisions are made for you and not someone else’s for you.
The moment you become reliant on someone’s choices for your life, then forget that dream of being successful.
If you are young and fresh-blooded, most of the time, it is good to listen to what your parents tell you, but that should not go without you processing to understand how beneficial it will be for your life.
However, if you are an adult, fully grown in your middle and late twenties and above, then you must be very careful if you still depend on the approval of people before you do what can help you.
Poor Health Habits
Another thing you must know is that this is your life. And as you want to be successful, it would be heartbreak to be diagnosed with some deadly illness all because you failed to practice some good healthy practices.
One thing that causes many to fall behind on their journey to success is when their health wanes. If you do not want this to be you, make sure to keep an eye on your health.
Periodically, go for medical checkups, eat healthy foods, and make sure to work out and take care of yourself with maximum attention.
Inability To Kill Distractions
Distractions surround us everywhere. And it wages a war against our attention. The thing is, to become good at something, you need to be able to focus on it enough to get somewhere with it.
However, in this age, there are different forms of distractions, and some are not even immediately identified as distractions. Our phones can be some source of distraction; certain types of environments are huge distractions, among many others.
As we want to be successful, we are normally left on our own to identify some of the things that can serve as distractions and eliminate them as soon as possible for the sake of our success. The following are some examples of distractions you might not have known.
- Regreting a past event
- Wanting to be perfect
- Thinking of tomorrow
- Overthinking
- Obsession with wanting to be wealthy, and many more.
You might not have known that these were distractions but they really are. They take up your mental space.
Instead of focusing on that one thing that helps you attain the success you want, these things will take their place, and then, before you realize it, that quality time will have gone to waste.
Enjoying Your Comfort
The only time you can somehow enjoy comfortability is when you have been able to attain the success you want.
If you have not, then you must not be comfortable in your comfort zone. It is the one thing some people from the previous generation as well as this generation fail to spot.
It keeps you feeling like there is nothing going wrong, and so it is good to relax and enjoy some good quality time, doing whatever you want. And that is a very wrong way to think if you have ever thought of becoming a successful person in this life.
So the best thing you can do for yourself is to find ways by which you can get out of that rabbit hole; if not, you will be stuck while still wondering how to advance in your journey to becoming the successful person you want to be.
Unless you are able to get out of your comfort zone, I am very sorry. You must forget your desire to be successful. The only way to attain it is to get up and do something.
The Wait For A Perfect Time
What is the perfect time? That an advantageous opportunity is waiting for you in line? I’m sorry, there is none like that.
There will never be a more perfect time than now. If there is something you need to do and you feel like you need to wait a little bit more, you will end up missing out on a lot.
The path to success in life requires you to take chances every now and then. That is how you can become successful, rather than sitting in your comfort zone and waiting for something to occur before taking action.
Final Words
The path to success is riddled with sacrifices to make, paths to change, and a continuously evolving mindset. But all in all, everyone’s success story will never be the same.
Once you have been able to avoid these habits, you will be halfway there to achieving whatever success you desire in this world. All you need to do is start building for yourself the required discipline, which will push you there.
