Romantic relationships are indeed beautiful things. New relationships are sweet and exciting. It is a journey that is unique for every single individual on this planet. Due to how unique it is for every person, there is no standardized blueprint for a happier and more successful relationship.
However, there are certain things we do or don’t do in relationships that help us increase the bond we share with our partners.
You probably are in a relationship where you are currently happy with your partner, or you are currently facing the inevitable ups and downs of a normal relationship. As such, you are looking for some of the do’s and don’ts in relationships that will help you deepen the bond you share with your partner.
Maintaining a relationship for a very long time can be a daunting experience, as you and your partner might be constantly maneuvering your way in this relationship journey. And you are faced with certain challenges as to how to keep that fire burning.
This article seeks to explore some of the things we can do and others that we shouldn’t do that will help us strengthen the special bond we share with our partner.
7 Ways To Build Deeper Bonds In Relationships
- Learn To Apologize After An Argument
I usually say that arguments are mostly good indicators of a healthy relationship. However, after we are done putting our points across in the most satisfying way possible, we must not forget to apologize. It may or may not be that we are at fault. But whatever the case, we must make sure to apologize.
After arguments, most partners refuse to see each other; some go to the extent of avoiding each other outright. When such things go on for too long, we end up drifting away from our partners with grief in our hearts.
We all know that fights are unavoidable in relationships. But that does not mean that we must not engage ourselves with our partners anymore. It should not be that, since we fought with our partners, the love we share is finished. Immediately after an argument is the best time for partners to sort things out. It is the best time for both partners to share their grievances while you both apologize.
Once you do this immediately after every argument, no matter the intensity of the misunderstanding, it helps you and your partner to clear up any hard feelings both partners may have. In the end, create a more harmonious environment for both you and your partner to understand each other and grow together on a deeper level.
- Make Romance
Romance is a very practical way to create a lasting bond with your partner. It is a form of intimacy. Making love does not have to be an everyday thing. But at least once in a while, you and your partner should actively engage in making date plans together, going out on the weekends to hotels and restaurants for a more wonderful time together as the romantic partners that you are.
Romance can also be in the form of cuddling, kissing, hugging, and other things that suggest romance. Whenever you both get the chance, try creating a romantic atmosphere. Also, to make your relationship more interesting and exciting, always try your best to create a feeling of anticipation in the mind of your partner. It keeps your partner attracted to you.
He or she would always be wondering what you were up to. As this goes on, you create a bond with your partner that is more lasting and strong.
- Make Effective Communication A Priority
Since we are here to create bonds that are deeper and last a long time, we must not forget the importance of effective communication. Communication is a crucial point we must never disregard when it comes to the topic of creating lasting bonds between partners.
The place of effective communication in building stronger, lasting, and deeper bonds is when the two partners make time for each other almost all the time to talk. This talk must consist of their needs and wants. It should contain secrets that can be shared.
The more you share secrets, the more vulnerable you become, and your partner begins to understand how much you cherish them enough to tell them your secrets.
However, this article will not tell you to divulge all your secrets to your partner because you are trying to communicate effectively. Everything you say or do with your partner must be of your own volition. They must also create an avenue for your partner to get to know you better.
If you choose to slowly open up to your partner, such that every time you communicate, they get to know something about you, it is also a nice strategy, as it is also a way to create anticipation in them. When your partner chooses to talk, try giving them an ear and make sure to try to relate to what they want to say.
Do not be hasty to say anything. But then, show them that you are genuinely interested in whatever it is that they have to say. It makes them feel appreciated and loved. Ultimately, prioritizing effective communication helps to deepen the emotional bond you share with your partner.
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- Have Time For Memories
Another way to create a deeper bond with your partner is by taking a stroll down memory lane. Remember your favorite days some time ago. If you have a photo album together, whether in hard or soft formats, go through them sometime.
Remember sad moments and cry together, as well as those hilarious times, and then laugh hard. As you are at it, you get to share deeper information you both were not privy of. That is one of the main reasons why we create memories.
To remember them with our loved ones. Therefore, as you are thinking of some of the things you both should do to create and maintain a lasting bond, why don’t you both go into your photo album, retrieve old images, and start creating that bond?
- Overcome Challenges Together
Just like in life, problems arise; the same happens in relationships. There may be times in your relationship when you or your partner will be faced with a challenge. To deepen the bond you both share, it is advisable to address these challenges together.
As much as you should not pray for difficult situations when they indeed occur, you both emerge stronger with a deeper bond when you rely on each other for support. It could be problems with childbearing, financial problems, inquisitive in-laws, and many others.
Once all of these things occur, make sure that, together with your partner, you tackle it with all you have. In the end, the bond you share becomes tighter and deeper.
- Do Things You Both Enjoy
Also, it is worth considering the things you both enjoy doing. It could be singing together or cooking together. Other couples love engaging in sporting activities together. In doing these things, both partners get to release stress as well as get the chance to spend some more quality time with their partner. Doing so helps you both bond more.
- Have Independent Times
Spending too much time together can actually backfire. Hear me out first. I am sure that, at least several times when we were with our romantic partners, we had this inexplicable feeling that suggested that we would love some time alone away from all this lovey-dovey stuff. When we are always engaged in seeing each other, cuddling, having sex, and all, we get used to the presence of our partners, so much so that we almost take them for granted.
And that is not supposed to be so. How then do we prevent such things from occurring? The best way, then, would be to prioritize our alone time. We must have these times for ourselves as well as getting to meet our friends and family members.
After draining ourselves in the process of meeting our family members, we now feel very ready and recharged for another set of intimate acts. In the end, we get to create more deeper bonds.
Things You Should Not Do
- You should Not Be Deceitful
In building a lasting bond, one thing we must never do is lie. The moment you choose to lie, regardless of the reason, you play with the trust your partner has in you. Because no matter how much your partner might love you, once they realize your dishonesty, it would be very hard to win that trust back again, and we do not want to see that. So what do we do? We must avoid little petty lies.
They make us lame and irresponsible. We want to build a lasting bond with our partners, and the only way that will work is when they trust us. If it happens that they do not trust us, then no matter what we do, all our efforts will be in vain. Therefore, you must not be deceitful.
- We Must Not Be judgmental
One thing we must avoid if we want to build lasting bonds in a relationship is being judgemental. You need to understand the fact that both partners are unique beings. And like I always say, not one person is without flaws, and as such, if you are the judgemental one in the relationship, here is a quick question for you. Do you not think you are being hypocritical? Hear me out.
Since we all have our flaws and are not perfect, when you try to judge your partner for some of the things they do, you disregard your imperfection and rather try to throw light on theirs. Although it might be that you mean well, in the end, they would wonder why you would critique them like that.
And they would begin to question the validity of your claims of loving them. It impedes our progress in trying to foster lasting bonds. Therefore, we must refrain from judging our partners and start appreciating them more. It will help them to be more open with us and in the end, we will be able to create a deeper bond with them.
- Disregarding Their Emotional Safety
If we find ourselves giving little attention to the emotional safety of our partners, then that might be a huge mistake on our part. A healthy emotional safety is more or less like a mini-gateway to fostering deeper connections with our partners.
When they realize how much effort we put into their happiness and satisfaction, they will not hesitate to open up to us too. They would do everything in their power to make sure we were also happy and satisfied. Thereby helping us to create a more lasting bond with them.
- Frequenting Social Media
Social media, no doubt, has now become the second relationship partner for almost everyone else who has access to the internet. When we are home alone with our partners, we must not forget that they are there for us and no matter what kind of satisfaction we seek, they are the ones who can give them to us in a more realistic format as compared to social media.
It is quite understandable that social media provides almost instant gratification to our always-inquisitive minds. But as much as we can not do without social media, we must not let it take the place of the time we are meant to spend with our partners.
When we do that, we gradually grow apart from them in the process. Instead of building deeper bonds, we end up disrupting the one already existing.
- Cheating
Building bonds in relationships requires both partners to be sincerely committed to each other. Creating meaningful bonds, however, becomes a problem when one or both partners are engaged in activities that suggest they are cheating on their partner with other people, with or without the knowledge of their significant other.
When that happens, genuine intimacy becomes a problem, communication becomes lukewarm and even genuine affection gradually diminishes. Thereby, we impede the growth of deeper and lasting bonds with our partner
Final Notes
In our relationships, the bonds we share are very important. Because, without them, there is nothing like love. Love is a connection, a bond. Without that bond, you can not be sincerely intimate with a person. You won’t even feel safe sleeping together with them since you have no idea if they are real or not or if they can harm you.
As such, you won’t even feel comfortable telling them your secrets, and that is a problem when we can’t have this with our partners. Therefore, you must prioritize the importance of building stronger and deeper bonds in your relationships.
